Home Living! Father & Mother Happiness is Big Shit!

Happiness is Big Shit!


Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

Father is 88 this year

Constipation is perhaps one of the most uncomfortable feeling for a person.  Something toxic is stuck inside and as days go on without its passing out, it gets hardened and bigger and it will be more difficult to excrete on its own.  As it might get absorbed back into the intestinal system, the stomach would bloat causing him uncomfortable tummy pain, frequent flatulence as well as lack of appetite.   Most times an elderly person tries to resist sitting onto the almighty throne to do his business and thought perhaps it will take care of its own.

Bed-ridden people can undergo significant muscle atrophy as a result of decreased activity as the muscles lose its tone and the loss of calcium from his/her bones.   Hence, the daily or least once in two days bowel motion of an elderly person is very important to his or her health, especially one who is confined to bed or a wheelchair and his/her ambulatory movement is severely restricted.

My father has been confined to a wheelchair for almost two and a half years.  We watch his bowel motion quite closely and most times we have to use enema to help him ease himself.  Every morning mother will cut an apple for him and feed him on a diet of high fiber food.

But that is not enough.  Many times I have to administer the enema onto his anus to ease him.  Ah, don’t leave it to the maid.  She would just make him sit on a commode chair and carelessly insert the enema.  The enema would just splash off due to gravity under its own liquid weight and it would only lubricate his anus slightly.

Donning a surgical mask and a rubber hand glove, I would make him lie down sideway on his bed on top of a rubber mat and pumped two enemas in swift succession.  Father would then at once scream excitably that it was coming, coming, coming……. No, he has to lie down for a while and with practice, I could easily get him to sit upright and move him out of the bed and onto the commode chair.

At first the pungent stinking smell and the ugly sight of a few big lumps of excreta may put one off, but after a while I got used to it.  Now I don’t even have the nausea feeling anymore when it is time to nurse-maid him.   At least my father’s hand is still agile and he can wipe his own ass.  I have some yoga training and I can hold my breath for some time, ah, long enough to take out the pot from under the commode chair and flushed the smelly stuff onto the toilet bowl.

One day I was back from overseas and I knew that father had not been doing well on his bowel motion for 3 days.  His face was pale and he was quite agitated.  Mother was getting worried.   On seeing me he was all happy and smiles.  Now, I had to pump him with 3 adult enemas and made him lie down longer on the bed until he ‘screamed’ that he could hold on no more.

Oh gosh, that big lump was almost the size of my fist and it stank to heaven high. Now happiness was the big shit had come off.  I could see the immense relief on his face immediately.

Poor old father.

On the next trip to the hospital for his medical check-up, I told the doctor that his bowel motion was not good and that we had been using enema almost everyday.  The good old doctor, no he was a young doctor, prescribed a laxative Lactul Solution for him to take on alternate days.  Lactul Solution is a mix of galactose and lactose and helps to break up the excreta as well as to lubricate the intestines.  We just have to ensure that he did not develop diarrhea and to use Lactul when necessary.

Since then, father has no more problem with his bowel motion.

Previous articleI Bought a Dude Jade Bangle
Next articleDe Beers Opens in Beijing
I am a Graduate Gemologist trained at the Gemological Institute of America (GIA) in New York City, USA. I hold an MBA degree from Cranfield University, United Kingdom, and a Bachelor degree in Mathematics. My earlier profession was a banker until I found jade in Myanmar (Burma) in the early 90s. I have traveled to the fabled Hpakan Jade mines, and Mogok, the world’s famous rubies and sapphires mines in upper Burma, with my second son. Three of my children are also Graduate Gemologist, GIA, NYC and they deal in diamonds, gemstones and jade. 我是在美国纽约市的美国宝石学院(GIA)接受过培训的宝石研究学家。 我拥有英国克兰菲尔德大学的工商管理硕士学位和数学学士学位。我以前的职业是银行家,直到90年代初我在缅甸接触到玉石。我曾经和我的次子一起去过缅甸上流传说中的哈帕翡翠矿山和莫谷矿山, 莫谷矿山是世界上著名的红宝石和蓝宝石矿山。我的三个孩子都是纽约市GIA毕业的宝石研究学家, 他们专门处理钻石,宝石和玉石.


  1. Reading this brought me almost to tears with a slight tinge of joy knowing that there are still people out there who loves their family no
    Matter what happens. I salute you for the effort and dedication…. May God (of any kind..:p) will grant you the same amou t of love and affection back unto you….

  2. Hi MontyHall

    Thank you for telling me this. I have heard of Psyllium husk but not of chia seeds.

    Will find out about it.

    Thank you for your support on my website too, you have a good day


  3. Hi Mabel

    Thank you for your comment. Your comment is an inspiration by itself.

    have a good day

  4. Hi Ivan

    thank you for your comment. Yes, we do feed my father with Chinese traditional herbs.

    I also believe that there are a lot of Vietnamese traditional herbs which are of immense value to our health.

    I know Vietnam quite well as I have travelled to most of the modern cities there.

    Cam Ong

  5. Sir, I think sometimes that we have to look at traditional and natural treatments. It may help.

  6. That is very kind of you to treat your father so lovingly. It is inspirational. thank you for putting up this post

  7. Right on! Glad to hear you have discovered a ‘regular’ system for helping your father stay healthy.

    You might want to ask your father’s doctor what he thinks of psyllium husk or chia seeds.

    Both are available at health food stores. Some people love one or the other. Some people don’t. Chia is high in omega-3 fatty acids.

    Thought you might be interested in hearing about some natural remedies…

Comments are closed.